A Virtuous Woman
Proverbs 31:10-31
10 Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
13 She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14 She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15 She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet.
22 She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24 She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25 Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
29 Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30 Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
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Transformation
(A state of being transformed
A mark change in appearance or character)
Ephesians 4:23
And be renewed in the spirit of your mind.
There is a phenomenon happening now among some black women, since the seventies there has never been an acceptance to embrace our natural hair. In the last few years many women are beginning to transition back to wearing our hair in its natural state. It’s a beautiful thing to witness, because it shows that we are beginning to purge away the negativity associated with the nappiness of our hair. For me personally, my journey back to my natural hair took on a deeper meaning because it was not only a transformation of accepting my hair, it was also an awakening of my spirit, my mental condition and the pride of the knowledge of who I am. For me, it all came together one step at a time culminating to an awakening that changed my life. As Hebrew people we are living in a country where the culture predominately prescribes to European beauty. We have been conditioned to believe that a relaxer would be the best course for our hair to maintain the flexibility of care and to be accepted in a workforce/society that perceives our natural hair as unruly and ugly. So we began to adopt this standard and we helped make the European/Asian hair business a billion dollar industry.
But I digress, as I evolved into this journey of my hair transition, a lot of mental conditioning had to be purged. As more of my natural hair grew in I had to learn how to manage the old hair with the new together and at times it was a challenge.
So frustrated, I gave up and went back to the more manageable relaxer. After a while I realize that I wanted to stay the course, it became a matter of principle, and it was shortly thereafter I was beginning to awaken to the truth. The more I discovered my true heritage and how it relates to the bible and the amazing accomplishments we as a people have contributed, not only to this country but all over the world throughout history (omitted history), I was filled with a so much pride it was overwhelming. Then to awaken to the fact that we are the Yah's children of the bible, I needed no more proof, I realized how asleep we are as a people and how little we know of our true heritage. At the same time I awakened to the pride of the truth, it was at that moment I accept the beauty of my hair and all the glory of its nappiness. I decided to cut the relaxer out of my hair and start anew. The interesting thing is when I fully accepted the knowledge of being a daughter of Yah and wore my natural hair proudly it exuded outward and people of other nations took notice. This proves to me that our "Spirit is of Yah" it is naturally within us, we have to regain that belief ourselves. Yah says in the last days he will let out his spirit upon us and awaken his people. It is important even more to repent of our disobedience and return to what he expects of us as His people to follow His laws and commandments set forth by the Torah. (The first five books of the bible.)
Ephesians 4:4-6
There is one body, and one Spirit, even as ye are called in one hope of your calling;
One Messiah, one faith, one baptism, one God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all.
For me, the amazing thing was Yah led me through this full transformation in succession, mind, body and spirit. We all have to recondition our mind to this complete transformation let go of the old way of thinking and embrace the new man/woman. Embracing my natural hair was only a part of returning to my true heritage. We must use that same analogy to let go of the of the old carnal man/woman and allow Yah to transform our spirit, we must return to our true Father, our true beliefs.
I continue to grow everyday in wisdom, understanding and complete peace in Yah and Yahushua, his son.
The Awakening is still in progress, through spirituality (Yah’s word), the love of my natural hair and my true heritage. I now know who I am!
HALLEU YAH!
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Back to Basics
The Woman According To Scripture
Genesis 2:22
22-And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
And Yah took the rib from the man and made woman...
In all things there is an order and balance, if you look around you there is proof of balance and order, day and night, the sun and the moon, male and female.
All is set into play to keep perfect order in this world. There isn’t a more obvious proof of The Creator’s existence then this fact and when things are off balance there is discord or chaos.
In the last thirty years, an imbalance has taken place in the black family, a shift in the hierarchy has caused an effect in the nucleus of the black family that has transcended into the fabric of our communities and it has created a chaos effect that is literally destroying us as a people. In other words we are imploding from the inside out; in essence we are helping all things external (our enemies) to affect our very survival as a nation.
I recall in 1989, a woman named Shahrazad Ali wrote a book entitled “The Black Man’s Guide to Understanding the Black Woman.” Ms. Ali herself a black woman is of the Muslim faith. The book began a firestorm of protest and admonishing toward Ms. Ali, especially among black women. Ms. Ali wrote, “Who’s raising these kids?” It is certainly not the black men, because you black women won’t allow him to. And it is surely not white people raising these “out of control” kids, especially boys. This leaves, by default, only black women as the most “significant other” in their children’s lives.
Ms. Ali, further stated that “all problems and issues of concern within the black community begin, are perpetuated by and can only be solved by black women. The first step, she said was the black women must get their head right.” In 1990 Ms. Ali gave a lecture at Howard University, the mostly black female audience became so upset with her ideas that many heckled her, and shouted vulgar epithets and food at her. The campus cops were called to prevent a full riot.
In the same year I listened to Ms. Ali when she was a guest on the Phil Donahue show, I didn’t disagree with Ms. Ali in all of what she was saying, only in that she made a blanketed statement that seem to included all black women. I never read the book, however when I see the state of our communities today I see the end results of the very things she described in the statements she made on the show. The one thing I can say about our people is we can sometimes be driven by such intense emotions that we rarely “think” to see the bigger picture. Sometimes the answers to our dilemma aren’t as far-fetched or unreachable as we believe. We are and have always been a spiritual people, that is why the world is so affected by us. We are natural-born leaders, we influence the world.
I grew up in the seventies and it was at this time that the breakdown in the black family became most prominent, there began a surge of teen-pregnancies that resulted in teen fathers walking away and young mothers raising their babies on their own. In 1965, 24 percent of black infants were born to single mothers. By 1990, the rate had risen to 64 percent for black infants. Every year about one million more children are born into fatherless families. I’m not saying this is all the fault of the black woman, but it is a contributing factor. My thoughts are not on the black men because that is a problem to be handled among our black men. We are the second half of the equation of that balance, my sisters and we have to work on ourselves. We must begin with being brutally honest with our state of affairs because it is the only way we can produce change. Our answers are scriptural base so we must start there.
KJV Ephesians 23
23-For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Messiah is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
Within the process of this breakdown another phenomenon occurred, women became the head of the household and through the welfare system and other factors the men were no longer in the home, leaving the Mother to be both the father and mother to the child. After over thirty years of this perpetual motion, you have an imbalance of an unnatural circumstance that puts chaos into the natural order of men who are suppose to be in the house heading the household by taking care of his family and teaching his children side by side with his wife. What is this imbalance that we see manifesting today?
Dueteronomy 28:53-57
53 And thou shalt eat the fruit of thine own body, the flesh of thy sons and of thy daughters, which the Lord thy God hath given thee, in the siege, and in the straitness, wherewith thine enemies shall distress thee:
54 So that the man that is tender among you, and very delicate, his eye shall be evil toward his brother, and toward the wife of his bosom, and toward the remnant of his children which he shall leave:
55 So that he will not give to any of them of the flesh of his children whom he shall eat: because he hath nothing left him in the siege, and in the straitness, wherewith thine enemies shall distress thee in all thy gates.
56 The tender and delicate woman among you, which would not adventure to set the sole of her foot upon the ground for delicateness and tenderness, her eye shall be evil toward the husband of her bosom, and toward her son, and toward her daughter,
57 And toward her young one that cometh out from between her feet, and toward her children which she shall bear: for she shall eat them for want of all things secretly in the siege and straitness, wherewith thine enemy shall distress thee in thy gates.
As the above scriptures point out it pretty much describes the state of our condition today as a people----utter chaos!
So how can we as black women balance the other half of this equation?
Our participation is crucial to the balance of our families, our communities and our nation. But first, we must understand our role in this equation to restore the balance.
Because of the breakdown of the black family we “black men and black women” have lost our nucleus, we have lost that core substance that makes us one.
Deuteronomy 28:58
58 If thou wilt not observe to do all the words of this law that are written in this book, that thou mayest fear this glorious and fearful name, The Lord Thy God;
This is the foundation of our union with the man Sisters, the only way that we will understand how we are to walk is through the example that Yah puts forth to us in his word.
Genesis 2:23
23- And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
Understand that we are part of that man; we were made for him and him for us.
KJV 1 Corinthians 11:3
3-But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
There is an order that applies to every household and that order not only maintains the balance of the family, it maintains the relationship between the husband and wife. It maintains the relationship between the husband, wife and children; it also maintains the relationship between the children. All of this is necessary to balance the nucleus of the family. Most importantly, it is the husband’s relationship with Yah and consequently the intercessor Yahushua with The Father that is paramount to all. We should be the example that Yahushua is to Yah and Yahushua's example should inspire us to walk as He does.
Once you understand this, you will have a happy balanced home!
Colossians 3:18
Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
Now this is a passage of scripture that gets taken so many different directions and out of context by both women and men. I know a lot of us need to come to an understanding about what it means to submit. With the onset of The Women’s Liberation Movement, feminism and equality for woman, the submissive woman has been demonized, misconstrued and this has severely damaged the relationship between some black women and black men. In the early years, especially before integration most black women understood what her position was in the family structure, our grandparents raised our parents to have respect for elders, and respect for each other, the children had respect for their parents….etc. Before the seventies we were a unified people. Somewhere between then and now things changed.
When I came into the truth, there were things I understood about being submissive to my husband. I grew up watching my Mother take care of the family, she took care of my father, and she was and still is a wonderful woman. My Father on the other hand abused the position of his authority over my Mother, through my negative experiences with watching my Father, dating and having friends with abusive husbands/boyfriends. I took on the carnal aspect of thinking. Although I knew men had a role to play in the household and I understood, I did not trust them and I could not yield to a position of being completely submissive. When I met my husband, he eased away a lot of mistrust I had and to a degree I settled into my role as his wife and a Mother to my sons. However, I wasn’t a pushover, I still held on to some views of my thinking as far as voicing my opinions whether he agreed or not, being a little difficult on decisions pertaining to certain matters I didn’t agree with. I never went as far as disrespecting him, or he me. I respected him as my husband and it led to having a very successful union. Our marriage is wonderful; we are good friends and very loving towards each other. Our relationship is based on a mutual respect and sharing of responsibility. We raised our children agreeing on the same methods and our sons are all married with families of their own. I had to come to the understanding of what the scriptures say about how a marital relationship should be.
I’ve been in the truth now a little over a year, the more I read the scriptures and studied, I began to take on the manifestation of what the word says about walking righteously and changing into the spiritual and leaving the fleshly woman behind, renewing my spirit, allowing the spirit to come in and change me. It wasn’t long after I read the virtuous woman that I understood completely and if you want to be a light unto Yah’s will, you will submit to Him first. Then you will learn that submission doesn’t mean you lose yourself, or you become a slave to this man. It means you step into your role to balance the family and be your husband’s helpmate. You let him do the role that Yah designed him to do and you take your place beside him.
Now of course, there are some men/women who corrupt the scriptures to their own meaning and you will discern this if “you are being led by The Ruach(SPIRIT of Yah). “ If it is a union of Yah, Yahushua, is at the head of a man and then, Yah, then there will be peace, serenity and balance.
You will be in balance, your children will be in balance and your husband will be in balance as Yahushua is his head and Yah at the Messiah’s head!
How do we submit to our husbands and be that woman of Yah?
*Note, these scriptures also apply to you single Sisters because when you acquire these attributes and manifest them in your life, believe me Yah will send you that “Man Of Yah” He must prepare you as a woman of Yah first. Be still, patient and allow him to lead you.
KJV Proverbs 12:4
4-A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones
The scripture says that a virtuous woman’s price is far above rubies.
That means she is precious, she will be a woman set apart from worldly women, she will be a believer in the laws and commandments, she will manifest this outwardly and inwardly. This is what makes her different, worth infesting in, worth loving.
All these attributes will be obvious in her being, her soul, her personality, a perfected mate to her man of Yah. A man of Yah desires this type of woman.
Not a woman who speaks inappropriately, behaves inappropriately, who is argumentative/challenging and don’t know when to shut up, who will not let a man be the man he is designed to be through Yah!
KJV Proverbs 19:13
A foolish son is the calamity of his father: and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.
There is nothing more off-balance and out of order, then a woman who will not allow her husband/father to have a voice in the guidance of his children. It is a wise woman who understands that a man who is stepping up to the plate and being a father to his children is the greatest gift that Yah has bestowed her, especially since so many men have to be coerced to do so. Do not argue and fight against a child’s father, especially in their presence. The children need the guidance of the father as well as the mother. It is essential for the balance and “spiritual” well being of that child!
Proverbs 12:19
The lip of truth shall be established for ever: but a lying tongue is but for a moment.
1st Timothy 3:11
Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things.
Pretty self-explanatory, Sisters…
Genesis 2:18, 22- 24
18-And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
22-And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.
23-And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.
24-Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
The relationship between a husband and a wife is very intimate, therefore the only two people who should be privy to the goings on in your relationship is the two people involved under the guidance of Yah’s laws.
Keep other parties out of your business.
Proverbs 31:26
She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
1st Peter 3:1-2
1-Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;
2-While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.
Those of us who are already in the truth of Yah are learned or learning, we are to be the tangible example of the laws and commandments. When we speak, it should be in kindness. As wives we should be the example of a righteous wife. And so they see in us, a chaste quality they find wholesome, true and respectful. In that they may be sanctified by your example.
*Note I can attest to this because, when I came into the truth. It wasn’t long after my husband came into the truth as well. He took notice of the spiritual change in me. Through Yah all things are possible! HalleluYah!
Proverbs 14:1
Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.
A wise woman knows the blessing she has in a man of Yah, but a foolish woman destroys her marriage taking for granted the good things she has in her man of Yah.
And finally….
For we Emas, or wiser, older women…
Titus 2:3-5
3-The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;
4-That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
5-To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
As older, wiser women, our counsel is invaluable to the up and coming Akotees/Sisters who have need of our experience and wisdom. We have been where they are going and our example not only teaches them that it is possible to live a righteous life, but also the difficulties and stumbling blocks that will no doubt come their way. We can give them the advice needed to be a righteous wife, mother and confidant to her husband.
They will look to us for this and we have to be vigilante in our walk to be a righteous example and an enduring light to manifest the spirit of Yah inside us.
This is what Yah expects of us.
I hope these scriptures encourage you, my Sisters to take notice of what you need to do to show yourself favorable in the eyes of Yah. I hope that Yah touches your spirit to make the necessary changes in your life to those searching and those already in this truth as Hebrew Israylite women. Examine yourself and totally embrace who you are, women of the Tribe of Ysrayl. Step up and claim your crown!
This following scripture is Solomon’s song in honor to the daughters of Zion. It is beautiful. I encourage you to read the whole chapter. It is truly an emotional testimony of the beauty and grace of
“The Woman”
Song of Solomon 4:1
Behold, thou art fair, my love; behold, thou art fair; thou hast doves' eyes within thy locks: thy hair is as a flock of goats, that appear from mount Gilead.